I have talked to hundreds of relatives who are strangers. Whether it be a 2nd cousin or a 10th cousin, we’re usually intrigued by each others traits & there are certain questions that always come up. We want to know who got what in the genetic lottery. I’m not very secretsy so, hope this helps you. I will tell anyone anything within reason, it just has to occur to me that someone wants to know it & I will add it.
Based on my many conversations, this page should contain the LEAST of what genetic relatives want to know about each other. First:
- Yes, I will help you figure out who your father, mother, or other relative is. If this is what you came here for, I believe you have a right to know, whether donor conceived, adopted, or just a product of the 70s, so let’s do it.
- I am on GEDMATCH. Kit # A212018. My DNA is up everywhere that I know to put it, you are welcome to it for whatever it can tell you. It is up there to help you find your biological family, don’t be shy about it.
- I have done Promethease & 23& Me too. If you want to know what genetic markers I have for terrible diseases, and which ones I have that protect me from terrible diseases, I will send it to you if you request it so you can compare it with yours.
Traits that I will readily confirm:
- I have a unique shade of blue eyes & I am currently putting a great deal of effort into finding out where this shade came from & how it has made its way through the genetic lotteries. I have blue eyed parents but their eyes are light blue with lots of yellowing. Mine have no yellow and they are dark blue, crystal clear & aren’t seen on any other relatives so far. If you are a genetic match and you have those, lets work together to find out who gave them to us.
- I have a strawberry blonde hair that is closer to red in the winter.
- I have fair skin.
- My fair skin DOES NOT BURN. It tans nicely but takes a bit longer than I’d like.
- No skin issues. I have an even, clear complexion & have had very few blemishes. I only wear make up occasionally. Many thanks to whoever passed that down.
- I have a slender frame but have been known to pack on a little winter fat. I don’t really mind the winter fat & sometimes prefer to keep it. Of course, it’s always belly fat.
- My hair is very fine, but I have plenty of it. I dislike it but, the advantage is that I only have to shave my legs once a month and I never stink. I can camp for a week and still not stink because I am not hairy, I guess (?) Its an envied trait. My sister is very hairy & stinks when camping ; )
- I have strong nails, never need fake ones. Why this info is asked for, I don’t know.
- My ears are apparently undersized, because I cant find any earbuds that fit right.
- Talents & Hobbies: Writing came naturally, I hardly paid any attention in English classes. I can write praiseworthy poetry, I just don’t anymore. Photography, I am particularly good with fast moving targets. Martial Arts, not sure that came so naturally but I certainly have an affinity for it & enjoy it. Gardening… I suck at it, but every April I can’t resist the temptation to dig and plant, so I do it. My crops are not as robust as my neighbors. Holistic Medicine– I learn everything I can about healing without pharmaceuticals but when western medicine is needed, I use it. I have healing herbs all over my yard because those are plants that are hard to screw up 🙂 I love Reiki, Energy Healing, & anything to do with strengthening a humans own abilities. Reading– books, yes, but also insurance or other legal contracts are not difficult for me to understand. Thus, I focus on that aspect in my career because so many who are in it don’t know how to interpret or follow the language at all.
- One known allergy associated with food: Onions, after lots of allergy injections I can now tolerate and enjoy them fully cooked. No raw onions ever. I don’t know anyone else with this bizarre allergy.
- One known medication allergy for me: Plaquenil, its an anti- malaria drug. I hope I never get malaria. My son is allergic to ibuprofen, very inconvenient. His face swells up. For him we most often use Willow Bark to treat fever & inflammation & add Burdock Root to it if he has an accompanying sinus infection. He could take Tylenol but he wont. He’s crunchy like me, he prefers to use what mother nature provides.
- I was able to give birth naturally, but not without medical intervention (to me that’s not naturally but, whatevs. There were issues & I actually died giving birth. Yes, I died. It is safe to say I was not genetically built for childbearing. I would have had 10 kids if I could have. I suspect other women in my family have had this issue but I don’t know.
- To my knowledge there are no learning or social disabilities in my direct paternal line. This is important because Autism is up to 1 in 60 kids now and it is believed to be genetic, so I felt compelled to address this here. People hesitate to ask questions like this for fear of offending someone. I am not easy to offend. My mothers side of the family has been affected by autism, and as far as I know, there is no evidence that my fathers side has been affected by it. If you are related to me through my mothers line and want to know more about how autism has shown itself in order to make sense of your own experience with it, I am happy to share everything I know with you including the onset and don’t mind engaging in discussion about what “causes” it.
Alleged Traits (just for fun). They Can Not Be Absolutely Confirmed Nor Denied.
- I may be nosy. That’s what makes me a great genealogist. I will confirm “curious”.
- I may have made a deal with the devil in regards to my bosom. I will confirm that I abundantly provided breast milk. Genetic blessing.
- I may hold grudges. Allegedly for a long time after I’ve granted forgiveness. Say, 7 years.
- I may be abrasive. I will confirm ‘consistent and practical’.
- I may be an arguer of science. I will confirm that I am objective & recognize that facts are only facts until new evidence is introduced, in which case, fact may be nullified. Any decisions we make based on facts alone might not be the best decisions. I love science, but I am not easily influenced by facts & studies. If my intuition says a peer reviewed journal entry is full of crap, I trust my intuition., regardless of disclosed ‘facts’. I don’t think that makes me an arguer.
- I may be arrogant. I may assume first that I am not the one who has a problem, instead I may seek to find ways to change the behaviors of others before my own. I can confirm that I am comfortable in my own skin, it’s good to believe in ones self?
- I might be a mother bear. I will confirm that I would get all up in my kid’s business if I knew he was about to screw up really big. I could not sit quietly & let him make mistakes.
- I may be aggressive. I will confirm that I am “protective”. If someone I care about is in a situation that is tough for them, my first instinct is to absorb the damage until I can destroy or neutralize its source. “Let them be mad at me, I can take it”.
- I may be insensitive, on occasion. I will confirm that I handle difficult situations well. Example: Fatality claims that come in at work, I am the one who has to read the autopsies & coroner reports & make decisions. I am definitely sad about it, but would not be useful to the client if I am falling apart alongside them. Also, I am the one who has to tell people they aren’t doing it right or good enough or fire people. This comes across as insensitive but truthfully, I don’t cry because when I was a kid I learned that it doesn’t help. It gave me headaches.
- I may be lazy. I will confirm that I dislike housework of any kind, to the point where I would rather work extra hours at the office so I can afford to pay someone else to work in my home. I call this energy efficiency. I would rather spend my time progressing & opening doors. Not a lazy thing.
- I may see the world through rose colored glasses. I will confirm that I am optimistic. I have never had the luxury of doubting myself. The possibility of doom does not dissuade me or cripple my ability to find alternate routes to my destination. Despair is not the boss of me. If a door is closed, I open it, that’s how doors work. My peers or significant people in my life would tell me all of the ways the door is locked & how I am wasting my time or whatever. Then I go and kick the door down & they’re left thinking I am brilliant while I fail to see any brilliance, just common sense. Just open the door.